Strictly spoken, counselling is about listening in a professional way. It is very hard to describe the job. I can honestly say that in all those years I never had the same situation twice. So what is counselling?
Let me tell you what it is NOT:
NOT talking to a friend: A friend can be a very good listener but they will always be part of your personal system (that is the definition of ‚friend‘). You are emotionally attached to this person and therefore value their opinion. Sigmund Freud said: ‚I am but a mirror‘. That is exactly what a counsellor is. I do not exist in the world of my client. I am only here to make things visible.
NOT telling you what to do with your life: I will never, ever tell my client what to do with their lives. My job is to make sure that you find out what you want. We normally do what we owe to our parents, what our boss expects from us or how we want our partner to see us. Fair enough but that does not teach us anything about ourselves.
NOT for people who are ’nuts‘: Did you know that every culture has a different definition of correct, healthy or conform? Going to a counsellor is actually a clever thing to do for people who are more sane than everybody else. Those people understand their weaknesses and want to work on them. Most people have learned to ignore their own weaknesses and they are therefore doomed to make the same mistakes over and over again.
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